Divine Feminine Angel Pendant.
Giving ourselves permission to be Fabulous
Don’t wait till you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be Happy
-Thich Nhat Hanh –
Little Angel story…..
Last week a very dear friend invited me to a 3 day, women’s spiritual retreat in the beautiful and sacred hills of Malibu.
“Me, go to Malibu, you’re joking?” I said. “I can’t afford a trip like that”.
And though my heart soared at the thought of Californian sunshine, dear friends, and the healing experience of a retreat, within seconds my head found 3 reasons why I couldn’t go.
No Money, No Time, No Permission.
I could literally hear the words rattling off in my brain (exactly the ones Marianne Williamson wrote actually.)
“Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Don’t you just get cheesed off listening to that chastising voice whenever something amazing comes up for you? And have you ever, actually caught exactly what it’s saying? Well, my darlings, I’ve caught mine, – red handed, – and it’s saying
“You don’t deserve it” – “You’re not special” –“That’s too fabulous for you”
Now, I’m not suggesting you go and blow a lot of time and money you haven’t got, but my question is, how long do I have to wait before I deserve something fabulous?
If I work harder or longer or maybe if I earn more money will I be worthy then? Will I feel more worthy of happiness next month or next year? And have I somehow got the notion that suffering is a trade off for happiness, that there’s always a sacrifice to be made?
This sounds alarmingly familiar doesn’t it, in fact, this sounds to me very much like conditional love; a sort of co-dependent belief that in order to have the things I really need, I must be agreeable, diligent, undemanding and nice to everyone!
Yes, a mixture of religious guilt, and the messages we grew up with as children, create these crazy ways we think and the way we treat ourselves today. Many of us grew up believing that what we want and need isn’t ok.
I actually remember my Aunt telling me I didn’t deserve to be happy, and that was after I’d been 12 years at a school where they told us that happiness was dangerous and would lead to sin, – imagine!
Oh, dear Angels, we really need to change this old programming, don’t we?
We really have to breathe new life into our Divine Nature, our worthiness, and our light, because we are all meant to shine, yes shine and be happy. Imagine if they told us that for 12 years! So, next time your head rains on your parade,
Give yourself permission to be fabulous.
Ps. – I’ve decided to go to Malibu!